by Amanda McKelroy | February 8, 2018
“When wisdom entereth into thine heart, and knowledge is pleasant unto thy soul; Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee: To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things; who leave the paths of uprightness, to walk in the ways of darkness; Who rejoice to do evil, and delight in the frowardness of the wicked; Whose ways are crooked, and they froward in their paths:” ~Proverbs 2:10-15
- Definition of froward: habitually disposed to disobedience and opposition
Life in a leadership position has its heavy moments. Sometimes I feel like I am under siege by people who delight in being froward – wholly opposing my Center, policies, our principles, and/or myself. These people take pleasure in making life difficult for others when they don’t get their way. They call the state on the Center; they behave in a nasty manner to us in person; they stir up drama on social media; m they slander us maliciously through poor reviews and hateful comments on public sites. I’m not always sure how to react, respond, or deal with it. Proverbs gives me the answers on how to handle it in verses 10 and 11:
- Have wisdom in my heart.
I have to choose to seek wisdom with my whole heart and to store it in my heart. It doesn’t just happen; I have to be determined to be wise and not a fool. It requires me to be still and quiet when I don’t know what to say or how to feel. It requires me to let God fight on my behalf when there’s a situation I cannot control. It requires me to do right by God and live for Him and in return the more I seek Him the more wisdom He will give me.
- Make knowledge pleasant to my soul.
Learning is not easy. I must choose to embrace learning curves and grow in knowledge instead of getting frustrated at the obstacles and problems in life from which the new knowledge will come.
- Exercise discretion.
Definition of discretion: the quality of behaving or speaking in such a way as to avoid causing offense or revealing private information. Practice exercising discretion every day!
“Let the words of my mouth, and the meditations of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.” ~Psalm 19:14
- Understand the spiritual battle at hand.
As an individual in a leadership position, and as a Christian, every day is a spiritual battle. I know that heading into every week and every day. So I must prepare myself for it by spending adequate time with the Lord each day and charging my war batteries. A soldier must be prepared for the battle before they enter it. Fighting a spiritual battle requires the same: preparation. Spending time reading God’s Word, praying, studying verses and passages that speak to my heart: these things prepare me to face the spiritual battles of the day.
“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;” ~II Corinthians 10:3-5
In some capacity, we are all leaders. If you stand for anything, at some point you will face opposition. My hope in sharing this is that it will help you be prepared for that opposition. I have to remind myself regularly of these principles. Opposition, even when small, is not easy to handle correctly and Biblically. But when we react correctly to opposition, it puts God in a position to fight for us and to bless us.
“What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?” ~Romans 8:31
“Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.” ~I John 4:4